I recently read an article about Instagram posts acting as a marker for depression screening in individuals. This caused me to consider my own Instagram activity and behaviour patterns, and how much I have come to personally rely on them to help with my own depressive episodes.
I use my Instagram as an online diary or mini blog. I update almost daily and discuss what I have been doing, how I have been feeling and write very honestly about what is on my mind. When I first admitted that I was suffering from depression I was a little uncomfortable about publicly discussing it and the reason for that was apprehensiveness about how others might perceive my posts. Would they be viewed as attention seeking or cries for help? Contrariwise I recognised the reason I had hidden my depression so long was due to stigma and perceived weakness of admission of mental illness. So I feel I really should try to help defeat that stigma. When I had pneumonia I posted about it, and how it made me feel, so what was the difference with this illness? The fact I had been hiding it so long perhaps? The fact that it is mental illness, and too many people think that you can just shake it off. If you’ve never tried to shake off the irrational persistent notion that you would be better off dead, then you are lucky my friend and I hope you never have to.
When I first told my friends the reactions were mixed. Mostly I was hit with surprise. “But you’re so strong!” was the consensus. Well yes, but that doesn’t make me immune it makes me resilient. One of my friends was astonished. “I though you had it all sorted,” she told me “I always looked up to you. I thought if you wanted something you went out and got it!” I was astounded. I honestly did not know how to respond, and I was hurt. I am still like that, just because I have hidden my depressive episodes from the world does not mean what you thought I was is a fraud. I am still that girl, that strong girl that people looked up to and envied. It’s just that I was secretly battling my own demons more than you realised. I know I am still that girl because after I admitted my diagnosis a few of my other friends were inspired to go to their own GPs and admit that they felt depressed or anxious or just that they needed a little help to cope with life. “If you can do it I realised that I could do it” they said.
Once I begun to get used to the idea of having depression and anxiety I became more comfortable talking about it, and soon I was regularly updating my progress on Instagram. My main aim was to be truthful, and so I post about good days and bad days. I recently went through a period of deep and extreme grief following the untimely and unexpected death of my horse, and very soon after the death of my beloved guinea pig. The grief was almost unbearable, and surprised me with its intensity and prolonged nature, and really I’m still grieving a little bit now, I still have unexpected floods of tears and sorrow. It really halted my life for about six weeks, just when I was starting to feel like I was recovering. It caused a big block in creativity and career development, and not surprisingly so. I do not care who thinks that the death of a pet is not valid grief, I have never been so devastated by anything in my whole life. As I posted about my feelings people reached out to me. It was so wonderful, this support network of strangers and friends and acquaintances all reaching out to me. Some had stories to share, some tried relentlessly and misguidedly to force me out of my reverie and others just told me they were thinking about me, and I am endlessly grateful for each and every one of them. It meant so much to know that people cared and understood and had time in their day just to say to me “hey man, you got this, we are here for you”, that they wanted to help even if they could not figure out how to help.
The same thing happens if I have a bad day for mental health. I post about it, and people respond. Sometimes it’s just a coloured heart emoji, sometimes it’s a kick up the arse and sometimes it is a heartfelt pouring of connection from someone going through the same thing. I don’t post for the comments. I post for the interaction and I post because if I write something down it is more manageable, and if I get feedback for what I wrote it becomes more manageable still. I am packing my depressive episodes in to colourful square internet boxes and hashtagging them relentlessly. This is how I deal with them, and it is helping me endlessly and I will not be made to feel ashamed of something that is helping me back to wellness.
It made me wonder if other people do the same, or if they would benefit from doing the same and a hundred other questions which I am tentatively beginning to research with a view to compiling a paper. I have no excuse not to start such endeavours now my Flying Start is dusted and out of the way. My mind is happy when it is achieving and being challenged, but I think I need to challenge myself more and not wait for approval. I need to do more of this and less self destructive behaviours, and I need to continue recording these adventures on my Instagram and my blog. I found a remedy to what ails me and I need to utilize it entirely.